If you’re asking the question: “how can I save a bad relationship” than the answer might be, why save it when you can improve it?  There’s really not a lot of reason to try to salvage a relationship that brings you more misery than joy.  If, on the other hand, you and your partner have both expressed a desire to make things better and you are both willing to work together, you won’t be saving a rotten relationship, you’ll be taking a bad relationship and making it great!

Relationships will always have some ups and downs.  If both people are mature enough to be able to have real discussions about what the problems are, as well as being honest enough to accept responsibility for  their part of the problems, than the two of you have a really good chance of making your relationship better.

If one of the partners is immature and unwilling to make changes or even discuss the problems than I’m sorry to say it but your relationship is already over.  You can stay if you want but don’t expect things to ever get better.  It takes both parties working together to overcome problems in any relationship, one person can’t do it all.

If the two of you have decided that you are both willing to try the first thing you need to do is find better ways to communicate.  What happens in many relationships is that one party gets upset and yells at the other person who will eventually just tune out their partner.  No one wins and both of you are miserable.

True communication isn’t about which of you is right and which one is wrong, it’s about trying to make your partner understand what you are feeling and why you are feeling that way.  It’s also about your partner trying to listen and not get defensive or upset, but try to listen openly to what you are trying to explain.

If both of you can learn to talk, and listen, properly you’ll find that things in your relationship will go a lot smoother.

Here is an example of what I mean:  Lets say that there is a situation where the girlfriend doesn’t like some of her boyfriends buddies, maybe because all they want to do is go out and party and all his friends are single so she gets a little insecure when they go out.  That is a valid way for her to feel, but it’s also valid that her boyfriend spends some time with his friends.  If she wants to discuss this with her boyfriend, she will be wasting her breath and time if she just starts screaming at him, accusing him of cheating on her, and bursting into tears.

That is a totally unhealthy way to deal with the situation.  He will feel like he is being attacked, which he is, and she will feel like she’s being ignored, which she is.

A better approach would be for her to find a time when they can sit and talk, when they are both calm and not angry and when neither of them is tired or in a rush.  She should then calmly explain that while she understands that he has the right to spend time with his friends that she would feel better about it if that time was spent going golfing, or to a basketball game, etc and not to a club.   That is a perfectly reasonable request presented to him in a reasonable manner.

Now his response will tell her a lot about where he is coming from and how he really feels about her and their relationship.  By approaching her boyfriend calmly and intelligently, instead of screaming at him like a banshee, she has allowed for an open discussion.  If, after that, her boyfriend refuses to make any changes than the sad reality is that he likes going out to the clubs and is more than likely flirting with other girls, at the minimum.  He doesn’t really care that much about his girlfriend, her feelings, or their relationship.  It’s time for her to move on.

The next time you feel like asking: “how can I save a bad relationship” try these tips so you won’t be saving a bad relationship you’ll be turning it into a good one.

The test of true love is how long two people stay together; no matter what life throws at them.  Sometimes, a mature relationship can struggle.  It is at this point that a decision has to be made.  More often than not, the decision to break up is the most common one made.  If you believe your relationship is rocky and may be heading toward a breakup, but you’re not ready to throw in the towel yet, you need to know how to stop a breakup.

There are many reasons why people break up.  Most breakups happen because the relationship has grown stale.  One person, or sometimes both people, in a relationship realize that they just don’t seem to have anything in common with the other person anymore.  Maybe the spark of attraction is gone.  Maybe they feel that there is someone else out there better for them.  If your partner already broke it off with you, then you know the reason, or reasons, why they didn’t want to continue in the relationship with you. However, it’s much easier to stop a breakup before it happens.

If you believe your relationship is heading toward a breakup or  your significant other has broken it off with you, and you’re not quite ready to give up yet.  If you think your relationship is worth fighting for.  Whether or not it truly is, can only be determined by you.  Then read the following advice on how to stop a breakup; to see if it can help you.

Think things through. There’s nothing worse than a knee-jerk reaction.  When someone breaks up with you, it is very painful.  All you think about is the positive within the other person.  However, sometimes, a breakup can be a blessing in disguise.  It helps if you can put down on a piece of paper the good things and the bad things about the other person.

Divide the paper in half.  Write down all the positive attributes and qualities the other person possesses and then write down all the negative attributes and qualities the person possesses.  Make sure that you do this when you’re rational and clear thinking.  Be honest with yourself.  Don’t sugar coat it.  If the negative qualities and attributes outweigh the positive, then perhaps, there’s no reason to want to stop the breakup.

Talk to your partner. Another piece of advice on how to stop a breakup is to talk to your partner. Let your significant other know what you are thinking. The relationship you are in with your partner is two-way. If you can have an honest discussion with your partner, you may be able to avoid a breakup.

They may be able to open up to you about something that is bothering them.  It is very important that you don’t get into any type of confrontation during the talk.  If you do, you will only shut down their willingness to communicate with you.  You need to listen and not become critical or angry. This may be hard to do, but it’s very important.

Value love.  It is not everyday in your life that you find a person who will love you as you are. If you think your partner loves you more than anything else, remember to value it. A little lack of excitement in the relationship is not proof that you have lost the connection. You might just have to rekindle the love embedded in the depths of your hearts. While your partner is with you, value the love you have for each other. In other words, don’t take the other person for granted.  In a mature relationship, taking someone for granted is very easy to do.

Get help from a professional. This is by far the best piece of advice on how to stop a breakup.  If you truly cherish your relationship, and you seriously think that you’re heading toward a breakup; then getting help from a professional is probably the best thing you can do.  Therapists and relationship counselors have saved countless relationships.  There’s nothing to be embarrassed about if you have to resort to this.  It’s amazing how having a specially trained third party; who is completely neutral, listening to you and partner discuss your problems can truly impact your relationship for the better.