How much space in a relationship is necessary? The answer depends a lot on the type of relationship it is, and each person in it. Some people do better when they’re together constantly, and others crave more of their own space in a relationship.

The hard part is finding a happy medium that both people are comfortable with. This is made more difficult when you each have very different ideas about togetherness and space. But as long as you can compromise on the level of space in a relationship that you both need, then you can work through this challenge.

Some people don’t like to be alone. They’re much happier spending all their time with coworkers, friends, family and their partner. When they’re alone and doing things on their own they feel a little lost and lonely.

Other people cherish their alone time. Without a little solitude every day they feel burdened and have a hard time relaxing. They feel that they always have to be “up” or “on” for other people when they’re around them, and it can be exhausting.

Those are two extremes, of course. There are also a lot of people who fall somewhere in the middle. They love the time they spend with their partner, but they also want some me-time to balance it out and recharge.

If both of you fall into that happy medium, then defining your space in a relationship should be pretty easy. And if you each fall into the same extreme group, where you both need lots of space or you both dislike being alone, things are made easier, too.

The problems come when one has a very different idea than the other .If you love your solitude and your partner hates being alone, you really need to talk and set some boundaries. Each needs to understand the other’s point of view so you can come up with a compromise that makes you both feel your needs are met.

If you love being alone each day for a while and your partner craves company 24/7, here’s the problem. When you say you need space in a relationship and go off on your own, your partner will feel neglected as if you don’t want to be around because of them.

And if you hate being alone and your partner really wants some me-time, then by hanging around constantly you can start to make your partner feel smothered. Your partner might also think that there’s no trust there, and you won’t give him or her private time because you’re afraid of what he or she might do when you’re not around.

You can see how both of these situations could quickly cause problems in a relationship. But if you talk to each other honestly and openly about how you feel, then when you need time your partner will understand why.

And when he or she hangs around when you’d rather be alone, you recognize that he or she doesn’t need the same kind of space in a relationship that you do.

If you’re asking the question: “how can I save a bad relationship” than the answer might be, why save it when you can improve it?  There’s really not a lot of reason to try to salvage a relationship that brings you more misery than joy.  If, on the other hand, you and your partner have both expressed a desire to make things better and you are both willing to work together, you won’t be saving a rotten relationship, you’ll be taking a bad relationship and making it great!

Relationships will always have some ups and downs.  If both people are mature enough to be able to have real discussions about what the problems are, as well as being honest enough to accept responsibility for  their part of the problems, than the two of you have a really good chance of making your relationship better.

If one of the partners is immature and unwilling to make changes or even discuss the problems than I’m sorry to say it but your relationship is already over.  You can stay if you want but don’t expect things to ever get better.  It takes both parties working together to overcome problems in any relationship, one person can’t do it all.

If the two of you have decided that you are both willing to try the first thing you need to do is find better ways to communicate.  What happens in many relationships is that one party gets upset and yells at the other person who will eventually just tune out their partner.  No one wins and both of you are miserable.

True communication isn’t about which of you is right and which one is wrong, it’s about trying to make your partner understand what you are feeling and why you are feeling that way.  It’s also about your partner trying to listen and not get defensive or upset, but try to listen openly to what you are trying to explain.

If both of you can learn to talk, and listen, properly you’ll find that things in your relationship will go a lot smoother.

Here is an example of what I mean:  Lets say that there is a situation where the girlfriend doesn’t like some of her boyfriends buddies, maybe because all they want to do is go out and party and all his friends are single so she gets a little insecure when they go out.  That is a valid way for her to feel, but it’s also valid that her boyfriend spends some time with his friends.  If she wants to discuss this with her boyfriend, she will be wasting her breath and time if she just starts screaming at him, accusing him of cheating on her, and bursting into tears.

That is a totally unhealthy way to deal with the situation.  He will feel like he is being attacked, which he is, and she will feel like she’s being ignored, which she is.

A better approach would be for her to find a time when they can sit and talk, when they are both calm and not angry and when neither of them is tired or in a rush.  She should then calmly explain that while she understands that he has the right to spend time with his friends that she would feel better about it if that time was spent going golfing, or to a basketball game, etc and not to a club.   That is a perfectly reasonable request presented to him in a reasonable manner.

Now his response will tell her a lot about where he is coming from and how he really feels about her and their relationship.  By approaching her boyfriend calmly and intelligently, instead of screaming at him like a banshee, she has allowed for an open discussion.  If, after that, her boyfriend refuses to make any changes than the sad reality is that he likes going out to the clubs and is more than likely flirting with other girls, at the minimum.  He doesn’t really care that much about his girlfriend, her feelings, or their relationship.  It’s time for her to move on.

The next time you feel like asking: “how can I save a bad relationship” try these tips so you won’t be saving a bad relationship you’ll be turning it into a good one.

If you’ve asked the question: “how do I save my relationship with my girlfriend” than you know how challenging it can be sometimes to make a relationship work.  The good news is that even though it is sometimes difficult, it’s not impossible and having a great relationship really is one of the best things in life and well worth the effort.

The first thing you have to honestly evaluate is whether or not the relationship is really something that should be saved.  This is so hard to do because no one wants to admit that maybe the person they love isn’t the right person for them.  It happens all the time that people stay in a relationship with someone who just isn’t a good fit, and they are miserable.  So before you try to save your relationship  honestly evaluate whether or not it is worth saving.

If, after honest reflection, you come to the conclusion that your relationship is something that was mostly good and is worth saving, the next thing you need to figure out is whether or not your girlfriend thinks that it is something that should be saved too.  You can’t do it all by yourself and you can’t ‘force’ your girlfriend to want to work on your relationship.  If she doesn’t think it’s worth saving and isn’t willing to try then it’s time for you to bow out gracefully and move on, no matter how tough that may be.

If both of you feel that the relationship has merit in spite of your problems the next thing you need to do is have an open discussion of what those problems are.  This is where many couples will stumble because this is the point where each partner has to own up to their own B.S.

It’s always easier to point out the flaws of your partner than to face your own, but if you really want to make your relationship work you’ll need to stop focusing on the things your partner does wrong and start owning up to your own mistakes…you both need to do this.   Most relationships fall apart because people don’t communicate effectively.  They allow small aggravations to grow and grow and finally they will reach a breaking point, and then they  snap.

Your partner will feel totally blindsided when this happens,  which will lead to hurt  and then anger and they’ll lash out back  at you.  This cycle happens over and over again.  In order for your relationship to work you both have to understand this and find a way to change it.

You both need to learn to communicate how you’re feeling in a non-accusatory way and you also need to learn to not get defensive when your partner tries to explain where they are coming from.  This is all about maturity and self confidence since it takes a lot of both to be able to listen to criticisms and not just fly off the handle and get defensive.

The next time you ask the question: “How do I save my relationship with my girlfriend” here is the answer.  Follow these tips and just remember that it will take both of you working together to make it happen.

First of all, if you’ve been asking “How do I save my relationship with my boyfriend?” the first thing you need to remember is that you can’t, at least not all on your own.  It’s vital that the two of you are willing to work together if your relationship has any chance.  If the two of you are willing to be honest and mature about dealing with the issues in your relationship then you may have a chance, but you can’t do it all on your own.

If both of you are willing to work on the relationship here are some things you need to consider:

1. What is the problem(s) with the relationship?  What is causing the stress and strife?  Is it a lot of small things or one really big thing, like infidelity.  Sometimes the problem can be a little hard to spot.  There are often misunderstandings that have led to resentments.  These resentments may have been brewing for so long that you don’t even realize they are there.  It can be time consuming and challenging to figure out what the issues are and face them head on, especially if you are the one who is mostly at fault.

2.  As you learn new ways of communicating with each other, more effective ways that will allow both of you the freedom to tell the other person how you’re feeling without it ending up in a fight all the time, you should also be spending time rediscovering each other.  Try to get back some of the magic you had when you first met.

How? Simple, do the things you used to do in the beginning.  It’s so common for couples to get stuck in a rut and get bored, but if you’re aware of that danger you can work around it.  Try to do some of the things you used to do when you first met, whether it was to go to a movie or go jogging, or whatever.  Pull yourselves out of your rut and recapture the magic you both used to share.

3.  The last thing you want to do if you’re trying to save your relationship is to be a whiny, immature brat.  That is not attractive and it will likely just make your boyfriend want to run further away.  Instead be a self assured, caring, mature woman who lets him know that you love him and want him but you aren’t going to fall apart if things don’t work out, no one wants a clingy, needy mess.  Remind him of the woman he first fell in love with.

For those of you who’ve asked the question: “How do I save my relationship with my boyfriend” here is the answer.  Just remember that it takes two to make or break a relationship,  and make sure that he does his part too. It might be hard to hear but if he doesn’t try he really doesn’t care that much about you anyway and it may be time for you to move on and find someone who does care.

If you’ve ever found yourself wondering: “how do I save my unhealthy relationship” the first question you really need to be asking yourself is if you should save it.  No matter what type of relationship it is, family, friend, or lover, all relationships will have normal ups and downs.  If it seems like you have far more bad times than good, and it’s an important relationship worth saving,  than it’s time to see what can be done to make things better.

The first thing you have to remember is that you can’t fix a bad relationship all on your own, if your partner isn’t interested in trying than the relationship is already over, even though you haven’t realized it yet.

If, on the other hand, your partner seems just as willing as you are to try to figure out what the problems are, even if it means they have to make some changes too, and work on fixing them then here are some tips that may help:

1.  Communication.  I know you’ve probably heard this before but it is the number 1 way to fix a relationship, or tear a relationship apart when one or both of the partners lack good communication skills. This isn’t just about talking, it’s also about listening. It’s about the way you say things  and not just what you say.

For example, let’s say that a guy tends to go out with his buddies a lot and his girlfriend feels neglected and unloved.  If she wants to talk to her boyfriend about it, which do you think will get a better response: yelling at him and calling him names then bursting into tears and give him the silent treatment for a week, or set a time when neither of you is overly tired or in a hurry and calmly tell him how you feel, no yelling, name calling or accusations.  Just a mature conversation between two adults.  Which approach do you think might make the most impact?

Of course, the response you get when you use the proper approach will tell you volumes about where your guy is coming from.  If you calmly tell him that you’d like to spend more time with him and ask him to not spend quite as much time with his friends and he shuts you down or makes no attempt to change than he’s given you his answer: he just doesn’t care that much about you or your relationship. If this is the case, it’s time to move on.  Kick him to the curb and move on.

2. Once the two of you have committed to try to talk to each other, and listen to each other, in a more healthy, productive way the next thing you need to do is try to find some common ground. What types of things did the two of you do when you first met, and why aren’t you still doing them together?  Can you start doing some of those old activities again?  If not, why not try to find some new things that you can both really enjoy and that will allow the two of you more quality time together?

People say all the time that relationships are hard, I personally don’t believe that.  I think if you’re with the right person for you and you’re not trying to pretend that the person you’re with is right for you just because you are too afraid to find someone else, than the relationship is actually pretty easy and doesn’t have too many bumps in the road.

When it comes to your relationships, stop trying to fit a round peg in a square hole, instead take the time to find someone that you are truly compatible with and your relationship will bring both of you a lot of joy.  If you follow this approach you’ll never have to ask: “how do I save my unhealthy relationship” again.  You’re relationship will be wonderful and you’ll both be happy.